5 Ways to Ruin Your Kids

Thereโs no denying it, we live in a tech-savvy world. The digital age today was not what I grew up in. In high school I had a pager, remember those? Someone would page you with their phone number and then youโd have to find a pay phone to call them back.
Or even worse theyโd leave a voicemail and then Iโd have to use the pay phone to check the message before I could call them.
My kids donโt even know what a payphone is. Not when everyone has a cell phone. Our cell phones were as big as our purse and all they did was call people.
Enter the world of text messages and the internet and youโve got one technology developed system right in your hands.
1. Fail to discuss online safety
Itโs a dangerous place to give your child free reign without discussing safety first. My kids do not chat online with anyone. Weโve talked about keeping login and passwords secret except from parents. Weโve talked about strangers that we canโt really tell who online friends are that we just meet because they may be something they donโt say they are.
2. Give them unlimited screen time
Donโt set limits on what your children. There are children who spend countless hours playing video games or in front of the TV each day. Can you imagine how many hours that adds up to over the year? If given a choice children will gravitate towards screens. Thereโs so much that your children are missing out on when they sit idly in front of a screen. They are a passive observer of the screen. Thereโs no thought involved in watching TV. Video games give you instant gratification as you achieve new medals or pass another level. This does not happen in real life. You have to wait for things and learn to use our patience. Something that is not taught well with video games.
3. Donโt monitor their online activities
As much as Iโd love to truly trust my children online, I know that curiosity can get the best of you and itโs so easy to find it on the internet. My oldest just got an email address this year at 13 to keep in contact with some of his homeschool friends and family. He also has his own laptop which if it were up to me, he would not have. But according to his father, he is ready. He has internet filters on his laptop and I check his history often to see what he is up to. He understands that if he violates our trust then he will lose his privileges.
4. Donโt stay consistent with your rules
Thereโs no point in laying out ground rules if they are not enforced. Sure itโs easier to go without the whining and complaining about using the TV or playing video games, but if youโve set out rules, you need to be ready to impose consequences should they not be followed. I love how the books state that the parent who wants to do away with screen time and does nothing is the same as the parent who gives their child free reign with screens.
You have to be willing to say no and both you and your hubby needs to be on board. The children will quickly learn to ask permission from if one of you is willing to bend the rules.
5. Fail to instill a screen-free time for your family
There needs to be a screen-free time for your family, that includes everyone not just your kids but parents too. You can tell your kids that they canโt use the tablet if you are there sitting and using your phone. When one person is absorbed in their electronic device then itโs super easy to ignore everyone else.
Make a schedule to screens after dinner so that you can use that time to spend together reading or playing board games. My children earn their screen time and itโs completed before dinner time. Studies have shown that children donโt sleep as well when they have screen time right before bed so weโve always limited those times to reading time.
Growing Up Social opens up your eyes to why screens are bad for your children and that you have to start doing something about it today.